Three birds sit on a wire. Two decide to fly away. How many are left on the wire? Two. One decided to fly away, but never followed through on his decision. Making a decision and taking action on that decision are two different things. Why don’t we follow through on our decisions? Because of the base of the decision.
Imagine someone who decides to sign up for our DollarMakers Certified Business Mentor Training Program. Along the way, they get stuck and eventually don’t attend. Why? It’s called “Approach Avoidance”. They intellectually WANT to attend the training, they understand that it’s the right thing to do, they intend to do it, but the base of that decision will undermine it and sabotage the action that should rationally follow. The base in this case could be fear of success, low self-esteem, negative conditioning, guilt, or a bad philosophy. The base is always emotional - it’s about your “feelings” and it explains why people don’t follow through on decisions, don’t implement what they learn, drop the ball, show up late for important appointments, fail to be consistent and do what they promise to do, and fail.
Think about it: Someone who believes they don’t deserve to be successful because of past guilt, or fear being noticed by the authorities when they become successful, or believe they will be obliged to help family they don’t like when they make a lot of money, will not follow through on a decision that they know will make them lots of money. Someone who punishes himself by being overweight will not show up at the health club, even though he may buy membership. Many people attend seminars on wealth creation, yet many of them have a socialist philosophy - it’s no wonder they never follow through with what they learn, even though they decide to do so. If your favorite books are by Michael Moore, you’re probably not going to apply decisions to become financially successful. If you believe money is bad, or that you’re a bad person, you will self-sabotage, because that’s the base of your decisions; it has nothing to do with your ability to succeed or the system you wan to use.
The way to alter the course of your life for the better is to adjust the base of your decision making. I recently wrote a new book, m eleventh, titled “Break Free!”, which is a handbook on this subject - an owner’s manual, if you like. Only by systematically confronting and fixing our self-sabotaging decision base can we move on to greater success and fulfillment in life. It’s not my environment, the government, or the city I live in - it’s about what’s happening in my head. I talked with someone who told me that Joint Ventures don’t work. My response was, “JV’s work for millions of other people and create millions of dollars in wealth. They don’t work for YOU because of YOU, not for any other reason.” The same goes for Network Marketing and dozens of other systems - it’s your decision base that makes all the difference. Accepting this and taking personal responsibility for being unreliable, slothful, fearful, or unsuccessful, is the first step towards real success. Your decsion base is like the foundation of a tall building.
There’s an old saying, BE - DO - HAVE. “You have to BE in order to DO, and you have to DO in order to HAVE.” The DO part follows the decisions you make. Stop blaming things and take responsibility - “If it’s to be, it’s up to me. My success or failure is my fault and to my own credit. I am the captain of my ship - I am in absolute control.” You’re closer to success than you may think. Jim Rohn said, “Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.” He’s right.
June 16th, 2008 at 12:54 pm
Robin,
this article really struck a cord with me, as this is me! It actually put me back on my heels as I’ve done this hundreds of times or more, I’ve purchased courses and never even looked at them!
I’d love to tackle this head on, I’d like to get your book and read it (for real) and make the next move count.
Please advise where I can get it?
Thanks,
Steve