We all have agendas, however some people have hidden agendas that need to be guarded against to avoid loss of reputation, customers, business, orders, suppliers, or other resources and assets.
Those with hidden agendas will usually agree to everything, and be very friendly and accommodating on the surface, while executing their secret plans under the table. These affable, helpful people use their promises to put one off guard.
The Key is to Limit Access
The way to avoid losing too much to these thieves is to limit their access, control, and exposure as much as possible while testing their loyalty and agendas. This is not cynicism, but rather skepticism.
Hypocrisy Runs Rampant
After 22 years in business, I never cease to be surprised at how well people can hide who they really are. Many are passive aggressive, and when they finally openly turn against you, they are usually very nasty. Those who claim to be “spiritual” and religious have been the worst I have encountered over 22 years – they hide behind a veil of hypocrisy to subdue any suspicions you might have – “wolves in sheep’s’ clothing”, as it were.
11 Tips to Prevent Your Loss from Others’ Agendas
- Expect the best, but plan for the worst.
- Have exit plans, contracts, a “Plan B”, and damage control in place before getting involved with new people, if at all possible, especially those who you get that “gut feel” about.
- Look for patterns and consider reading “The Art of War” sections on spies.
- At all times, seek leverage and control, but don’t expose your suspicions.
- Always endeavor to be one step ahead of them, and don’t hesitate to use private detectives if necessary.
- Protect your relationships and database.
- Put yourself into communication loops.
- Consider the worst case scenarios.
- Don’t bank on the promises of any one person.
- Also, find out who the real decision maker is, and who the “front man” is.
… And, Of Course, Use Joint Ventures
This is why I use Joint Ventures to make money – I limit my risk, spread my income, and always have many options available. I do as much due diligence as possible on my JV partners and those I am involved with, and while I still get attacked and people still try to steal from me, my risk is limited. Conventional businesses have a lot more to lose from spies and saboteurs than I do as a Joint Venture Broker.
A Healthy, Objective Attitude Will Serve You Well
A healthy dose of suspicion is always a good thing, and warning signs are often there if you remain objective. Once you get emotionally involved, greed and desperation will blind you to what is really going on. Remain, as the Buddha teaches, “Unattached”, hedge your bets, and don’t expect things to last forever.
A mature view of business and life, and access to good mentors will help you to remain strong and rational. Try to see things through the eyes of others, seek to understand their motives, and ask lots of questions.